What was once the ending became the beginning of a beautiful new chapter. I remember all of the arguments, the fighting, the lies, the disappointments even.
I remember it being the last straw and this time I was really going to leave… I planned to leave the man I fell in love with as a teen, married and then spent my entire adult life with. Marriages don’t last these days anyways right?
I remember being told that marriages don’t get better. They only get worse… Boy was that a lie.
After tragedy my husband and I rekindled our entire love life in less than two weeks.. It wasn’t anything special just pure chemistry that we thought we had lost after all these years. With so much forced time apart we began to yearn for one another more than ever but this time with the intention of becoming our best selves and creating the best marriage and friendship we possibly could in this lifetime.
From 19 reasons why I want a divorce to 19 reasons why I refuse to let go is crazy. I’ve fell head over heels for my high school sweetheart all over again. I used to think that it was impossible but truth be told. what’s meant to be will be and what isn’t will fall apart.
No matter what we go through, we always seem to find our way back to one another in some way. Almost in the way magnets attract.
Through tragedy I learned that only for him does my heart skip a beat… I always loved him but now it’s like a school girl love all over again. each day our passions grow stronger and stronger.
If you’ve been in a long term relatiobship or are married like me. I’d love to hear how you keep things alive in your marriage. For me this is deeper than sex. The problem definitely wasn’t in the bed but in our connection, communication and planning.
With time, we’ve grown to prioritize and value eachother more. We’ve grown to understand that we’ve truly become one. We are one.
We’ve raised eachother quite literally. Of course there will be problems down the road. Things change when you realize above all else, that person matters most to you in the world and the worst thing you could ever do is let them go. That is true love to me…
It’s something most people don’t get to experience in this. lifetime. We were lucky… We found each other so early that we got to experience so many years of life together already. Love is so beautiful… I’m blessed in more ways than one.
here’s some things that help us within our marriage, partnership and friendship
we value each other. This was something that we had to learn and simply just took time. Sometimes you don’t see the value in your partner… Hell, sometimes you don’t see the value in yourself. I’m a strong believer in you can’t pour from an empty cup so it’s best to work on filling your own cup. We had to learn to see the value in ourselves before we could see the value of each other. When we started to see the value in each other everything changed. It feels good to be valued and appreciated.
we communicate better with eachother. We had to learn how to not only be heard but listen. Communication didn’t come easy to us and it’s something we are still even now working on. Communication can single handedly change the dynamics of you relationship or marriage. There’s nothing like understanding and being understood.
We make time for one another and we make sure we let the other person know AND feel loved. This is huge as well because sometimes we can tell someone we love them but what does that mean when the don’t FEEL loved. When we started choosing to go out of our way to let the other person know and feel loved our relationship changed drastically. The romance is able to fly even in subtle things as simple as a text message. It feels good to be wanted and loved.
Simple things can change your relationship in ways you never thought possible but it starts with a choice and a decision. You have to want a good marriage or relationship in order to have one. They don’t just happen by chance… they are cultivated.
If you feel like you have lost the spark and passion in your relationship or marriage try implementing this three things and see if anything changes for you. At the end of the day, you know when someone is for you or not.. sometimes the flame just grows a little dim.
Keeping the flame going is a choice… and it takes two to cultivate the fire.